The way that we view the betrayal will be impacted by how we view the betrayer, Satan, and God (which I will get into more later). God says that He works everything to the good of those that love Him (Romans 8). That does not mean we won’t be betrayed, but rather that when we are, He will work it to our good.
God can use betrayals to refine us, to show us our own weaknesses, to help us understand God’s might in a greater way, to help us understand how we’ve truly betrayed Him, and to help others as they go through betrayal because they have seen us go through it in a godly way. Those are all good! God can actually make you thankful for pain and for betrayal, don’t limit Him! It may not happen right away, but pray for it and ask God to give you insight into your situation and to show you how He is working through it.
When Someone Broke My Trust
One of the sweetest moments that I have ever had with the Lord was late one night after finding out something excruciatingly painful. Someone, that I had had a deep level of commitment to, was unfaithful to me and I wasn’t sure how to even begin to process the agonizing heartbreak. It was the biggest betrayal that I have yet experienced and as I was crying myself to sleep, God nudged me to just get out of bed and kneel before Him.
He brought to my mind the story of Hosea (that I had been studying lately) and how Hosea went and bought back his wife after she left him and prostituted herself. She betrayed him. But he fought for her and forgave her. I had been picturing myself as Hosea and how I needed to forgive this other person, when I then began to see that I was actually Hosea’s wife.
All the sudden my weeping went from the pain of being betrayed to the pain of realizing my betrayal against my Bridegroom in a whole new light. The betrayal I experienced was nothing compared to the betrayal that I had committed. The sin against me was nothing compared to my sin against a most-holy God.
That fact sunk deep into my spirit that night. I realized the profound truth that if I were never betrayed, I could then never understand how I had betrayed God. If I never experienced pain, I could never understand the pain I had caused God. When you see God’s holiness and your sin with no filters, it allows you to see and experience the forgiveness and love of God in a more tangible way. It will change you like nothing else can. Don’t allow an opportunity for that to pass you by.
Stay tuned for tomorrow, when I discuss the role you yourself play in the drama. It may not be what you think.
Julianna Curtis, a homeschool grad, graduated from Stetson University in 2011, Summa Cum Laude, with a degree in Accounting Information Systems. She is now a technical analyst at Verizon, a L.I.F.E. group leader and worship team singer at Powerline Church, and vendor coordinator and speaker for the Finish Well Conference.