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"Do you not know that those who run in a race all run, but only one receives the prize?
Run in such a way that you may win." » I Corinthians 9:24

All men carry a hammer. Some use it to build while others use it to destroy. Nowadays, a lot of men choose to destroy.

But if you care about raising world changers, then I know you want to raise your sons to use their hammers to build. You want them to help heal hearts, not break as many as they can, especially when it comes to their interactions with girls.

Training your son to respect and protect women starts at an early age. If you allow your son to disrespect his mother or be harsh with his sisters, the chances are high that he will not naturally grow out of that.

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child. That’s why training must be intentional. He needs to see his father do it first.

Dads, do your sons see you show regular affection to your wife or do they see you raise your voice at her? Do your sons see you deal gently with your daughter’s tender emotions? Do they see you treat other women with courtesy without even a hint of impropriety? Do they see you protect women from potential danger, insults, and undesired advances?

As men, we are protectors. God wired us that way. But unless someone trains us to build and defend, the world will teach us to destroy. You have a hammer. Show your son how to use it.

To learn more about raising your sons to be builders, read Pastor Mike’s new book, Real Men Build. You can find it on our website,


Mike Curtis founded Powerline Community Church more than 18 years ago in the Lake Mary/Sanford, FL area. The atmosphere at Powerline reflects his passion for discipleship, the local church, training leaders and the next generation, worship, and evangelism. Mike speaks at homeschool conferences on raising real men. He is married to Meredith, the woman of his dreams, and has five incredible children.

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  • Mary Smith

    This is sooo true! Thank you Michael Curtis and the Finish Well team for this eye-opening advice. I want to raise world changers! Thank you for your heart and help in this!

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